Diving into the unknown — A starter guide to self-discovery


Sometimes life can take many unexpected twists and turns, you can be sailing along quite easily, blissfully unaware that stress and routine are eating away at your inner self without you even realizing it.

The mind and the soul are tough, but also actually much more sensitive than you may realise.  Modern society can whisk us up in its tornado putting us on paths that we don’t necessarily choose, but paths we think we should take.

Listen to yourself

Sometimes the body will tell you it’s worn out, or that its on the wrong road, this can come out in stress, dissatisfaction or possibly even sadness and an unfulfilling existence. In my case it was anxiety. I’d spent almost two years In a career I thought was what I wanted, I underwent a lot of stress in my jobs and also a lot of boredom, two emotions which are common, but clearly an indication of not being in the right career.

Unfortunately for me I carried on ignoring these emotions and October last year my mind had had enough. I started to have panic attacks for no reasons and my thoughts became irrational, so much so that I could no longer work. My mind had decided that enough was enough and forced me to leave my job and focus on nothing but getting it back in a good healthy state, so my journey began.

Don’t worry, problem solve instead

Below is a short excerpt from a Robert Frost poem, which sums up this argument perfectly:
“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less traveled by. And that has made all the difference.” 

In relation to this excerpt, I am now on the road less travelled by. I have taken the leap into the unknown. Step back, observe and think what YOU want and begin small steps to making it happen.

Read quotes from The Dalai Lama

We all love gossip, and some seem to relish in other peoples misfortune as it gives temporary relief from our own problems. Others peoples problems only cause stress and negativity so distance yourself. Adopt compassion and positivity for others who aren’t in good places, as you reap what you sow; spread love and good energy and positive advice, as this is what you receive back. Read quotes from the Dalai Lama until they embed in your brain.

Practise meditation, & Hypnosis

Meditation is a long-term fix for the injured mind; it allows you to enter a deep relaxation, which frees you from your worries, and yourself.  Before you go to bed at night ensure your sleep will be highly beneficial to you, find a hypnosis CD or recording specific to your problem and it will not only help you sleep but get to work on your subconscious too.

YOU are all that matters

Concentrate on you and never compare yourself to others, as this has no benefit to your mental wellbeing; we are all different and YOU are totally unique.

Written by Freelance Writer and Rock Journalist, Betsy Green

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  • PearlyWhites

    A really well rounded outlook on the cause of anxiety and how to cure it – it’s not about the problem, it’s about the solution!

    If more people recognised the warning signs laid out here they could totally avert future outbreaks.

  • sue green

    A very good article

    • Nick Burdall

      10/10 for effort Sue

  • Scott Giles

    Some good advice, i think its important to get into a good routine after work, going to the gym or doing something you enjoy, otherwise its all to easy to bring the stresses of work home and never switch off!

  • Sue Diprose

    This is a well written article which gives a snapshot of one person’s experiences, but it’s valid for all. I especially connect with the advice about listening to your body as so frequently we strive to drive ourselves to new levels, just for the sake of it, rather than as a carefully thought out plan. Don’t push the river (it flows by itself….Barry Stevens.)

  • Charlotte Taylor

    good article that shows a range of coping mechanisms, some of which I’ve used on my own journey.

  • Leonie Haigh

    Great read! With having been in this situation myself I wish I had this to read and help me on my way. I love the way the writer gives such good advice and coping mechanisms, I believe this could help many people who are going through the same. The article is very well written but also simple enough to understand. It just shows that sometimes you can take the wrong path but there are always ways to go back, once you have the realisation of your self worth and what you want. Love it! Couldn’t have said it better myself

  • Jade Bentley

    What a wonderful read. Written so honestly, you can see this is from someone that has and still is on her journey to recovery. It does take time as I know all too well but using the mechanisms listed above they do help.

  • KitKatKate

    Having had time off with stress and depression in the past, I can totally relate. For those who are parents or who work in caring professions remember the oxygen mask principle: you have to look after yourself first in order to be able to help others.

  • Laura Atkinson

    I enjoyed reading the article, you can tell the reader was being honest which you don’t see often. I’d like to hope the writer and the readers who suffer from anxiety and panic attacks take on board the information and use it. Be who you want to be and do what you want to do. If you focus on everyone else you will loose who you are.

  • Beth Hunter

    A lovely , insightful and honest article. Full credit to you for your honesty, it makes everyone else who struggles feel like you are speaking , as a friend directly to them, offering advice which has come from direct experience. You have enormous courage and the tips are great!

  • Mark Lovett

    Great to see such positive vibes even in a tough situation. Great read, uplifting and motivating. It really gives the reader one of the best gifts- the ability to open their eyes and realize everything is possible, you are the only one in control of your own life.

  • Nick Burdall

    A thought-provoking prose with several connotations to real life epitome. Your use of Sir Robert Frost and his metaphorically-interpreted fork in the road is evident throughout one’s life. Another scriptural entity comparable in this case would be Celie’s in Alice Walker’s The Color Purple. *****

  • Sarah brown

    Great up beat inspirational article. Especially the part about ” you are all that matters” never comparing yourself to others is so true and a waste of emotions. I think everyone can relate to this article.

  • Emily

    Very heartfelt and positive article about anxiety which holds everyone back at some point in their lives. Some really helpful ideas for readers to start their own journey on the road “less traveled by” – an ideal choice of iconic literary metaphor to describe the struggle to be true to yourself and take control of your life when anxiety overwhelms.