Uncompromised Life takes you deep into yourself through a series of daily hypnotherapy sessions, and practical exercises designed to improve all areas of your life from the inside out.
It took me just over two months to finish the course, during which time my yoga business has continued to grow, my boyfriend and I finally found a new place to live (which ticks all the boxes) after almost a year of looking at houses, and people have been paying me lots of compliments which is always nice.
However, the real magic of this course is what it does to you internally. It doesn’t matter what you own or accomplish on the outside, if what you feel inside is a big mess. Scroll to the section What this course has done for me to find out more about my personal experience.
Uncompromised Life in a nutshell
The purpose of Uncompromised Life is to improve all areas of your life (business, career, wealth, relationships, health), whilst also helping you to cultivate self love, inner confidence and bring about change quickly. It’s a course for anyone who experiences self doubt or has self esteem issues and would like to increase their confidence, uncover what’s holding them back and reach a higher level of performance in all areas of life.
Who is Marisa Peer?
Marisa Peer is one of the UKs leading hypnotherapists and is the creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT). She frequently works with top performers in their fields such as olympic athletes, celebrities, and successful entrepreneurs, and has written a series of bestselling books in the field of hypnosis and personal development.
This is probably one of my favourite Marisa Peer videos which is all about believing that you are enough (the topic of week seven).
First impressions of the course
The first module is called The mind does what it thinks you want it to do. It comprises a mix of online hypnotherapy sessions which you do daily, as well as practical exercises for you to do in your own time.
A recurrent problem I’ve had outside of my yoga teaching is not being taken seriously. For example, someone will ask me something, I’ll say an answer which I know is correct, and for some reason, that same person will then turn to someone else and ask again, as if they weren’t satisfied with the answer I’d given.
This would really irritate me and I had no idea why it was happening but it happened a lot. Coinciding with this is indecisiveness. I’ve done a lot of work over the last few years on my career and have been focusing a lot more, but for many things I’m still in two minds (partly why it took so long to find a new home).
What’s my point? The very first practical exercise I did on this course was to pay close attention to the language I used, both in my head and out loud. Even if you don’t do this course, I highly recommend you do this exercise because it could really change the way you view the world and yourself.
Marisa asks you to record yourself talking about anything for a few minutes. The idea is just to speak naturally using language you would normally use. She wants you to notice patterns — particularly destructive patterns in the language you’re using on a daily basis.
I almost didn’t do it because I thought I had really good self talk, and found myself thinking, I never say things like this journey is hell or this work is killing me… you get the point.
After the recording though, I was shocked to find that in everything I talked about other than my yoga teaching, I sounded unsure of myself. How could I expect other people to take me seriously if I couldn’t even take myself seriously listening back?
After recording yourself, you’re then asked to write down the words you used. Here are some of the words and phrases I used over and over again: I’m in two minds, I’m uncertain, I’m confused, I guess, Apprehensive, Not sure about what I’m saying, Should I…?, Felt up and down, One minute I think we should…and then next minute…, Feels rather confusing, I can’t decide, Maybe.
The weird thing is that I didn’t realise how bad it was until I listened to myself. The only thing I spoke about with clarity and confidence was my yoga teaching which is an area that is going well for me.
Stop reading and start recording yourself
From the outside looking in, it might not look like much, but doing this exercise was huge for me, and I’m confident you will also get a lot out of it too. So, if you’re in a place where you won’t be disturbed, take a few minutes out from reading this article, and record yourself (with or without video) speaking about anything.
More often than not, most of us have no idea that we use certain phrases all the time and how much our language affects us. These words shape your reality, and once we’re conscious of our language we can start to make amazing breakthroughs in our approach to life.
If you did the exercise, I’d love to hear how you got on.
What’s changed since doing this first exercise?
Since doing this exercise, I put a stop to using all those phrases and words listed above on a daily basis — at least I tried really hard. Your self talk and the language you use after all act as affirmations which shape your life, and I was using indecisive language all the time, even for things I was totally sure about. Why did no one point this out to me?
The result? It’s an obvious one but people are actually listening to me because I’m no longer using ridiculously indecisive language. A good example, is that I was recently invited to be part of a small group of people to help write and discuss standards in yoga in the UK which is a new government initiative. The result? I was actually listened to and my opinions were taken on board.
What this course has done for me?
I mentioned at the start of this article that my life externally (yoga business, relationships, home, finances, health etc) is going really well, but what I want to emphasise in this section is how Uncompromised Life has helped to change the parts of me that are perhaps harder to measure from the outside.
I’ll always remember in week seven of the course when Marisa illustrated one of her points by talking about a client of hers who is an Oscar winning actor. On the outside he had supposedly everything so many of us could only dream of, but inside he never felt good enough.
I really want to emphasise this — we can get all of the worldly pleasures, and this course will certainly help you to fulfil your goals, but the biggest gift I think anyone can have is inner confidence and self love — which really is the heart of this course. This I believe is where true happiness and contentment come from. Otherwise, there’s a danger of always wanting more or feeling like you’ve never quite arrived at where you want to be.
What’s on the other side of fear? Nothing. — Jamie Foxx
I remember ages ago listening to the following Tim Ferris podcast: Jamie Foxx on Workout Routines, Success Habits, and Untold Hollywood Stories. During the podcast, Jamie says What’s on the other side of fear? Nothing. At the time, I felt defensive.
During Marisa’s course, I finally related to this quote — realising that most of my fears are about such little things that I blow out of proportion unnecessarily.
I’ll always care a bit what people think because I’m sensitive by nature but I feel more inwardly decisive and clear about what I want now, and I’ve noticed a big difference in how people are responding to me as a result of this. Changing my language through hypnosis and discovering where and how these patterns originally formed has really helped me too.
I’m going to give you a really small example of something I did during the course to help me overcome my fear of caring what others think of me — I created my first YouTube video of me talking. This might not be a big deal for a lot of people but putting a video of myself on the internet felt really scary. The reality? I have no idea why I was so worried or cared what these imaginary people watching would think of me.
My first Youtube video
To sum up, I finally feel an inner confidence, and self acceptance that I haven’t really felt before for a prolonged period of time. I’ve always felt one step away from getting to where I want to be — as if I haven’t yet arrived. It’s a bit of a cliche to say ‘live in the moment’ but this course certainly helps you to enjoy what you’re doing for what it is and to do things for the right reasons rather than trying to impress people or to be validated in some way.
What I’m about to write isn’t exactly criticism, but it’s something I wanted to highlight and hopefully you will get something out of it too.
Marisa talks quite a lot about cultivating a positive mindset etc. which is great. It really helped with that first exercise I did where I discovered how indecisive I was being. However, I don’t always like this emphasis on trying always to be supposedly ‘positive’.
This isn’t what the course is suggesting which is why it isn’t exactly criticism, but I do think we have to be careful not to always be on a pleasure/ happiness seeking mission, and this is something I feel could have been emphasised more.
I think it’s more in labeling certain things as being positive and other words or emotions as negative, whereas in something like Vipassana meditation, you’re taught to almost be indifferent and instead to observe without judgement. This allows you to then feel any ‘negative’ emotions, sit through it, and watch them change into something else.
You could, however, argue that this is covered in a slightly different way in module seven which is called You are enough. Far too often we can put so much pressure on ourselves to be a certain way or to achieve X amount of things, but this module allows you to let go a bit and feel good about who you are right now — in this moment — regardless of where you are in life.
Another thing I’d like to say is that focusing on all areas of your life all at once might be a bit overwhelming for some people especially if you feel like nothing is going well in any area. If this is the case, I would choose one or two key areas you’d like to focus on and go from there. You have the course for life, so there’s no reason why you can’t complete it several times with a different area of focus.
Uncompromised Life — the breakdown
I’m not going to describe each module and exercise in minute detail but I think it’d be useful for you to see a quick overview of what the course entails.
Weeks 1 to 3 – program your mind to get whatever you want and keep it.
Weeks one to three focus on cultivating the mindset of a winner and help you to discover how really successful people use their brains to get the most out of life.
Week 4 to 6 – discover and implement the three key habits of successful people.
There are practical activities for you to do throughout the whole course, but these three weeks really get you to take actions every day. Procrastinators watch out for a rapid change! You can’t not get important things done in these weeks.
Weeks 7 and 8 – cultivate emotional wellbeing, self-esteem, confidence, unshakeable self-belief and self love
You could argue that these are the most important weeks, but you need to create a foundation first with weeks one to six. In many ways, this is where the real work happens.
Outward success can be achieved, but Marisa is making it clear that in these weeks, true contentment and happiness in life comes from having self love and an unconditional belief that you are enough as you are — right now — regardless of what you’ve achieved or where you are in life.
The common denominator of all our emotional issues comes from an inner feeling of I am not enough. — Marisa Peer
I remember thinking when I started this course that people go to hypnotherapy often for something very specific like a fear of public speaking, overcoming anxiety or breaking a bad habit. The bonus material below allows you to do further hypnotherapy sessions in a particular area you’re struggling with or need more help in.
- Gain confidence and self esteem
- Overcome fear of public speaking
- Perfect deep, unbroken sleep
- Attract a loving lasting relationship
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For me, the beauty of this course was in the inner confidence and self love that it gives you. I’m already in a happy relationship, but I can see how this course could really help you if you are looking for love. Marisa gives examples of how many people have found love during the course — often with people that are already in their lives or living close by — they just didn’t notice them before.
It’s a cliche but in order to find love with others we must love ourselves first and there’s definitely a big focus on self love in Uncompromised Life. For example, one of the daily hypnosis sessions is called Lovability which you listen to for 21 days and then weekly after that. The idea is to help you to see yourself as loveable with no conditions attached.
It’s linked to the idea of feeling like you are enough. How often do you feel like you’re not good enough, or you feel like an imposter in your work? On some level I think, regardless of how outwardly successful you are, this is something we can all relate to.
So the takeaway, from this article — observe your language after recording yourself, and really believe that you are enough with no conditions attached. And finally, I wish you all the self love, inner peace and confidence you deserve in life. x
P.S. I am an Uncompromised Life affiliate. This means that if you join the course though my site I will make a commission which will go towards doing future yoga teacher trainings and courses.